The WANT to do things

"The Breakup" is a great movie with Vince Vaughn (funniest dude ever) and Jennifer Aniston. There is great dialogue that should make most couples laugh. One of my favorites is when she says to him "I want you to WANT to do the dishes" and he says "why would anyone want to do the dishes" and later something like "I'm sorry I don't have the same desire and enthusiasm about doing dishes as you". In my marraige, my wife has said things similar to that to me. For example, when I ask her if it is okay for me to do something (more on that later), after giving me the okay, and me going and returning, she says "I want you to know that I didn't want you to go". And I'm like "Huh?". Didn't I ask and you say it was cool? Why would you lie to me? Ha. But all these things are along the same line. The common theme is, that we learn so much about each other that we KNOW how they feel (or should) without them telling us, and we should act accordingly. Like knowing she doesn't really want me to go to a baseball game, so not even ask. Or knowing she would be really happy if I cleaned the house when she was out with the kids. These are things that I try to do when I have an enlightened moment and actually get it right. However, all too often I still misread and don't get it right. But it is about the desire to WANT to get it right and improve. I WANT to learn my wife's feelings more so I can act the way that pleases her. Doesn't mean I succeed that often, but the effort is there, and once in a while I get lucky. I know when she does things for me without me asking, which she does often, it's because she is showing me that she knows how I feel and what I want and it makes me feel good and happy when she does those things. She gets it right more than me! But knowing how I feel when she does it, only makes me want to do better.
Going back to asking to do things. I know a lot of guys take heat for this, like "did you ask if you were allowed out?". But how rediculous is this. What type of husband or father would I be if I didn't. Why should I not care about how my wife feels or what she desires. It's kind of the wrong way. People should be asking "did you make sure it was okay with your wife? I wouldn't want to get in the way of anything you had planned" or something like that. Now that may be going a little far, but you get the idea. It's all about respect.